Self control isn’t always what we think. You can be your own worst enemy. Part of you wants full control, but not because it is God pleasing. The challenge for the Christian is to bend his will to the Spirit.
Two of the fruits of the Spirit are kindness and goodness. These two words are synonyms. There is a little difference in the meaning that can be found in the attitude of the person doing the action. Sometimes kindness can be selfish. May we always reflect the kindness and goodness that our God has shown to us for Jesus’ sake.